Monday, January 24, 2011

Why I am a Feminist -Part1

Phew the title frightens me when I aniticpate the anonymous comments I am gonna receive from people I know. But I have been contemplating on this for quite some time. Not because I am gonna lash out people out there and enjoy sadistically. Just because recently I had few experiences which required a catharsis, I thought it was worth putting into words.

Whenever I spoke about women or issues related to women I have been asked emphatically if I were a Feminist? The tone often varied from being sarcastic to condemned , surprised, irritated, confused and baffled. To people who know me well this was nothing bad but to those unknown I transcended to a monster who hated men, spoke ill about them and lived to concoct plans to exterminate them something very close to Nazism.

The very fact I am married is sufficient a reason to deny all the above claims but then people get curious if I am torturing my hubby or has he managed to train his dragon (that's me).

On this juncture I would like to share my views on feminism. I was called so for the first time in my ninth standard and I had no clue what the term meant. I would stick to my definition of those days. A feminist to me is a woman who celebrates womanhood and does not tolerate any shit coz she is a woman.

This was my response to people who stopped me from doing thing because I was a girl overtly or covertly. And since I came from a supportive family and had a very strong mother I was never subdued. It took me to surprise that this was not the case in other homes. Girls were raised very differently from boys and told it was for their good as they were the weaker sex.

I was recently told by a guy that he loved Mumbai. When I asked why so he replied the girls were babes. I added they were bold too. He replied saying women can never be bold and this irritated me a lot. This is one problem I have experienced for 27 years of my life. Women had to be beautiful to entertain men and that's what our media has succeeded in doing so far. Not many stories or movies portraying women in lead roles succeed. In fact the more dumb the women portray themselves it fails to appeal to men who disapprove and women who feel scandalised( definitely they are never indoctrinated to revolt).

I am often reminded women should not think aloud I don't understand why though. A friend of mine , a very dear one in fact told me " You are not the prototype for the kind of wife I would be looking out in future". We were a group of close friends and this comment upset me a lot. I asked him why and he said it was unfeminine to argue, debate and not obey. I wonder what they think of WHO today.

I dont hate men infact all my good friends are men, sensible men who have accepted me as I am and support the thoughts I share with them.

And Why am I a Feminist? Precisely because I cant tolerate any shit against me because I am a woman.

P.S- I expect a lot of anonymous blunders and I promise they will be published here.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

According to medical dictionary "feminism" is defined as 'the presence of female characteristics in male'. About Mr.Who,I will say, he is a Gentle man who is molded by experiences that made him to understand that nothing is perfect and, the whole amount of goodness in you ,which is not transparent to others even to your 'group of close friends'. If you believe that the comments you receive from anonymous (before reading itself) will be blunder, you can disable that feature.I am leaving this comment with the identity 'anonymous' because identity is irrelevant to facts.